Well. . . . parents can look and discover that their children are like them without trying to do a damn carbon-copy of themselves, that's narcissistic nonsense that has kept many a psychiatrist well paid.chitwnvw wrote:Jeez, parents will raise their kids to be like them. Old man Ramsey, had a ton of money and he married a beauty queen, the perks of doing well. They had a girl and they made her a beauty contestant, this is what the parents knew and respected, who are we to judge. The worship of 35 year old foreign cars is just as stupid.
Money? Perks? What does that have to do with raising your child to discover who they themselves might be? Money? Perks? Is that the Entitlement Thing that figures so richly in the behavior and assumptions of the well-heeled? "That'll give the wife something to DO, let her parade the kid around, I'm busy."
I judge. Sometimes I even mean to. The "worship" of a 35 year-old car that gave me a flawless run to Minnesota after suffering the slings and potholes of Chicago traffic is not really worship, it is a dynamic appreciation of something that works.
The worship of ephemeral images courtesy of your tarted-up daughter have nothing to do with the appreciation of who she is. It is using her to fulfill questionable longings and it represents WHAT RELEVANT thing to HER life? Not a damn thing. Unless you want her to think that pretty is all that matters.
I'm not saying that having grandma gush over your daughter in her Easter dress is bad, not at all, but to hijack your daughter's childhood to recreate or fulfill your own unrequited dreams, screw that. People could try to bring children into the world just to meet these new creatures and maybe even learn something from them instead of recreating a "chip off the old block". JonBenet surely does not have a chance to teach her parents anything, and maybe never did, that poor little chip. A money-drenched household only makes for a more difficult time for any child to break free of the stifling smugness that comes with material success. Perks. Doing well. How sharp is the blade of "success."
Colin